MSA shook things up with this week’s general event, Paired in Paradise—yes, that annual event on marriage, and NO—not a matrimonial event. Let’s kill the stereotype please, right now, in case it’s still floating around in any misinformed minds out there. Not everyone who attended last night was desperate to get married. Everyone I spoke with came to genuinely learn about an action beloved to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala—so beloved that it completes half the deen of a believer and unites a pair of people in companionship and love that transcends worlds.
With such a potentially wonderful outcome from marriage at stake, a Muslim needs to make sure he/she goes about it properly. There’s general and specific red flags that’ll result in rejection, questions that need to be exchanged and answered between potential partners, and the “interview” process. The audience shared their thoughts to compile these lists, creating an interactive atmosphere between speaker and attendee that was quite refreshing to experience inside the walls of the Paul Robeson Cultural Center.
Distinguished alumni Sania Siddiqui and Rami Elsawah kindly shared their marriage stories with the current undergrads as tweets with the hashtag #PairedInParadise filled the screen in the back with GEMs. Both speakers’ point of emphasis was clearly the advice to take away from the evening: work on yourself and your relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.
Sure, marriage has the potential to complete half your deen, but that doesn’t mean the other half is nowhere to be found. Get close to Allah and mend your relationship with Him first before pursuing a spouse. When you get that down (or at least do your best to work on it, considering it is a lifelong journey), Allah will send your way what’s best for you Insha’Allah.
And that’s a promise you can count on, if you put your trust in Him:
وَتَوَڪَّلۡ عَلَى ٱللَّهِۚ وَڪَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ وَكِيلاً۬
“And put your trust in Allah, for Allah is sufficient as Trustee.” [Qur’an 33:03]