By: Aliya Aliya
You have three huge exams that all have to do with your major in one week, plus a paper, and on top of that you have to meet up with some kids for a project (bit off a little more than you could chew this semester, eh?). On top of all of this, you have family responsibilities to deal with as well. Yeah…there’s definitely a word for that,
It’s fun stuff, right? Not really. Especially considering we’re in college and we have 12 G riding on a 35 multiple choice test that we barely studied for. But we are all human, and we all live on this earth. And part of living on this earth and being human is dealing with different circumstances which have been brought in front of us. Now, being on the topic of stress, I should mention that stress isn’t all that bad. There are different kinds of stresses and its all depending on the situation you’re in and the responsibilities you have. The key here is not what kinds of stressful situations you have to go through, it’s how you deal with those stressful situations.
Now let’s say you are that poor kid in the scenario above that has 3 exams, a paper, a project and stuff going on at home that all has to be dealt with. How are you supposed to even get all of this done right now? That’s 5 things to do in ONE week (and it’s not even including the family stuff). If it were me, I’d be freaking out right now; maybe you should just fail one of the exams and concentrate on the other stuff. And while you’re at it, you should just completely ditch your project, or just not sleep. It’s just one week of sleep anyway. But no wait, that doesn’t sound like good advice… So let’s just address this and keep some things in mind if one day we are ever faced with a similar challenge. DON’T PANIC. Breathe. The first thing you need to do is manage your time (the last thing is worry). Seriously, it is a bad idea to willingly fail an exam and ditch people like that. In a situation like this, you should space everything out. Don’t try and be a hero by doing all of these things the week of, that’s just going to make things worse (although it does work for some people…). Plan out before hand and prioritize what classes you need to study for the most and dedicate certain days or timings so you can get everything done.
So, it’s clear that you got a lot on your plate right now. And there is going to be pain, suffering, anxiety, stress-and everything else that comes along with it, because that is just how life is. But in the midst of all these exams, projects and family life, along with being human, we tend to forget some very important things. Like, in times of distress, even just a prick of the finger from a thorn, Allah (SWT) may expiate one of our past sins. And even in the Quran it says “For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease” (94:5). So not only in times of hardship can our bad deeds be forgiven, but with this hardship there will be also be ease as well, SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah).
But definitely the most important thing to remember when dealing with stress is to remember Allah (SWT) and have Iman (faith). With the remembrance of Allah, in times of happiness we should be thankful to Allah (SWT) and in times of distress we should be patient and remember that Allah (SWT) knows best. Remember the story of Yusuf (As), who was betrayed by his own family members and taken in as a slave. Even through all of that he was still patient and was faithful to Allah (SWT). And knowing that, and thinking of all the petty things that may worry us, we should try and respond to challenges we might face in our lives from a positive point of view that only pleases Allah (SWT).
There’s obviously a lot more that can be said about stress, anxiety and how to cope with it. But I’m going to leave you off with this one thing: Allah (SWT) only tests those who are loved, and does not give someone something they can’t handle. And if Allah (SWT), the creator of EVERYTHING knows that you can handle it, then you should really put your trust in Him.